Ah dear Katherine - thank YOU for your generous reflections and comments too! Learning how powerfully my attachment style (pre-therapy!) impacted my friendships as well as romance, was a huge game-changer for me, and sharing that through my work with other childless women has helped many of them too. I no longer beat myself up about the …
Ah dear Katherine - thank YOU for your generous reflections and comments too! Learning how powerfully my attachment style (pre-therapy!) impacted my friendships as well as romance, was a huge game-changer for me, and sharing that through my work with other childless women has helped many of them too. I no longer beat myself up about the 'right' way to 'do' friendship but instead am choosing to hold it more lightly, and to have a really diverse friendship garden full and see the value of all them - neighbours, acquaintances, friendships and the occasional soul-sister. Just as families need 'villages' I think we all do -and not everyone has to be a close friend! Most of the people around me in rural Ireland are mothers/grandmothers, and they are a very diverse bunch too, and I'm slowly finding the rebels amongst them :) x
I love this Jody - I love the idea of a friendship garden and I love that you're finding the rebels. Go rebels! I think (and this will be a generalisation, of course) that when mothers emerge from the all-consuming phase of motherhood (little kids) and start to reclaim their lives and their identities, it is easier to connect with them and them with us - to relate more as humans, as women. Keep forging the path. xx
Ah dear Katherine - thank YOU for your generous reflections and comments too! Learning how powerfully my attachment style (pre-therapy!) impacted my friendships as well as romance, was a huge game-changer for me, and sharing that through my work with other childless women has helped many of them too. I no longer beat myself up about the 'right' way to 'do' friendship but instead am choosing to hold it more lightly, and to have a really diverse friendship garden full and see the value of all them - neighbours, acquaintances, friendships and the occasional soul-sister. Just as families need 'villages' I think we all do -and not everyone has to be a close friend! Most of the people around me in rural Ireland are mothers/grandmothers, and they are a very diverse bunch too, and I'm slowly finding the rebels amongst them :) x
I love this Jody - I love the idea of a friendship garden and I love that you're finding the rebels. Go rebels! I think (and this will be a generalisation, of course) that when mothers emerge from the all-consuming phase of motherhood (little kids) and start to reclaim their lives and their identities, it is easier to connect with them and them with us - to relate more as humans, as women. Keep forging the path. xx