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May 4, 2021Liked by Jody Day, Jody Day

This is great and I'm so very happy to have a place to relate with other women. In January I turned 71. When I was 17 I made up my mind not to ever bring children into this world. In 2000, I gave up all ideas of romantic partnerships. I have a small group of women who are friends, however, MOST are either in a relationship or have children/grandchildren, or family members living close by. Which is where they go during the holidays.

Physical looks? Can't say I like it but I have accepted it -- as gracefully as possible. For me accepting "change" was key to it all--life is always about change and it never stays good or bad. The only constant is change.

I don't regret the decisions I've made and most of the time I'm very happy. That being said, there are definitely times that I feel at a loss. One of those times is--who do I leave my "stuff" to? Sounds silly and I have been getting rid of so much...one neighbor stopped in and said that she likes my "minimalist" way of life! OMG---people just don't get it!

The other thing that comes to mind and is difficult for ME (especially since I'm healthy) to deal with is, WHO wants the responsibility of helping me with medical, etc. when that time arrives?

These are not an easy decisions to make.

Thank you so much.

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Mar 2, 2021Liked by Jody Day, Jody Day

I think it’s easier to deal with fading looks as a childless woman when one is also happily partnered. As an older single childless woman who would dearly love a partnership but see no prospects at all for that, it is impossible for me to even stick my toe in the water to brave taking selfies that emphasize my age. I will diet, exercise, dye and blow dry, etc because for me it’s not an option to happily sink into cronedom while still basking in a comfortable partnership.

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Feb 24, 2021Liked by Jody Day

I love that phrase ' word cauldron 'Jodi, wonderful! I have just discovered Ursula le Guin through a doco on BBC i player. Her more recent non - fiction books say a lot about aging as she headed towards ninety. If I can find it again there is a particular quote that I loved so will put it here next time. She is worth reading although I'm sure at times falls into the women with partners and children....I am myself heading towards old age and losing hair is one of the things I find most difficult to embrace. But we can't hang on to anything so working towards not worrying about it!

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Feb 23, 2021Liked by Jody Day

I shall join you at the word-cauldron! Beyond beauty is indeed something significant. Inhabiting the new-old face and

new-old body where Gravity has made Her scars over 50+ years is very different from Otherhood. Thanks Jody for once again walking ahead and making a path 🌷

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